Jan 6, 2015

Changing dreams

I use to be one of those people that always had a plan. A vision of where my life was going, or where I wanted it to go. Then, I realized life happens, and often (or at least in my case) it never goes how I thought.

I think most girls envision going to college, graduating with some degree, falling in love, working their dream job, settling down, buying a house, having babies (you know the usual), but that isn't what my friends lives or my life is like. Sometimes I feel like we have this square peg, and everyone is trying so hard to fit into it, until one day after repetitively trying to jam a star or a circle into it, we realize we won't fit. What happens when that moment comes? Some people find themselves in a deep depression because life didn't go as they planned or as they wanted, while others find a path that helps them to excel and grow. 

I want to be one of the people that excels and grows, only problem is I am a sucker for comparing myself. . as you can read here & here. I compare myself to my "estimated potential"; what I thought I would do, what other people in my family said I would become. Worse, I compare myself to complete strangers on social media forums like Pinterest. #wannabebabewithaperfectmelt 

While suffering the grunt of such a flaw recently, I read a talk on sisterhood (here). It was a beautiful compilation of truths and facts, describing how women need each other to endure trials of life, and to help one another. It stated that comparison can be a dangerous demise of so many women, and that instead of focusing on our differences we need to focus on our similarities. There is a great strength that lies within women. This I share regularly, but just imagine a world where mothers congregated together helping each other, tending to the littles of sick mommas, delivering meals to women suffering difficult times. What a wonderful world we can make. Really, we just have to stop looking at the "perfect lives on Instagram," and start looking for the people who need us most.


  1. in the last 30+ years of life I have had some trials and tribulations. Loss, pain, love, heart break but when I look into Zoe's eyes I know that path doesn't matter because it led me straight too this point in my life. I continue to have to remind myself of that in tough times but her smiles, her giggles, her infatuation with new moments they remind me that I am the luckiest girl in the world. Have you heard that song by the Rascal Flatts, Bless the Broken Road? Absolutely perfect reminder for me. So maybe the plan was just to keep watching where life takes us...
    sending you love and light.

  2. Natalie,

    You put it so beautifully at the end. You have so much wisdom and love in you, it is amazing!

    Thank you for always being such a light!


  3. Beautifully written. You really are a gorgeous person, inside and out. I've been struggling so much lately with this. But I realized that comparing was eating me up and instead of comparing, I started acknowledging the strengths of other women to their faces, specifically on the things about them that I compared myself to. It is amazing how quickly the envy or comparing just stopped when I instead told them how admirable that quality of skill is. Still working on it, but improving!


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